Past and Present: Loss and Love

“Life is a full circle, widening until it joins the circle motions of the infinite.”
– Anaïs Nin

(This is the part 2 to Past and Present: Springtime and Ruins)

There are many different kinds of love. None of which are inferior to the other. Every kind of love is paramount. I wrote the poem Love at First Sight about the day my sweet nephew was born. I wrote it in a way that it could be applicable to many different love at first sight scenarios. The beauty of poetry and literature in general is that you have the freedom to interpret however you wish. I also wrote a poem titled Grandpa Smith, about my beloved grandpa whom I recently lost.

I’m learning that life is full of loss and love. New love that comes into your life, love that’s been there a lifetime, and love that crushes you with a painful goodbye.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love at First Sight

A miracle happened that momentous Spring day,
The day my soul was destined to find you.
Overcome with a great love,
Time froze the moment we met.

As I gazed upon you in that crowded room,
My heart nearly burst as I saw only you.
Marvelous, innocent, and charming.
Elated, my soul soared beyond its existence.

Weeping while I held you in my arms,
Tears of joy and gratitude.
Oh tender love of mine,
You are perfect my beloved darling.

I cherish that precious day,
The day you captivated my heart.
My dearest, It was truly love at first sight.
An enchanting moment, a beautiful love.

Forever, throughout the eternities,
I will adore you,
I will protect you,
I will love you with all of my heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grandpa Smith

Our Grandpa Smith, the best grandpa ever.
He loved his family,
We knew we could count on him whenever.

He often told us stories of his childhood,
He loved Pepsi perhaps more than one should.

He taught us grandkids all a lot.
He loved basketball,
Remember his famous hook shot?

Dance or sports, he was always there to cheer.
He’d call us on our birthdays every year.

He loved his garden, we’ll miss it blooming.
He sang silly songs,
His deep voice always loud and booming

We’ll miss his jokes, like “Guess what I herd?… Sheep!”
These memories we will forever keep.

He really lived, leaving us all in awe,
We’ll miss you Penn Harris, our dear Grandpa.

-Kayla Marie Oliver

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Past and Present: Springtime and Ruins

“It was such a spring day as breathes into a man an ineffable yearning, a painful sweetness, a longing that makes him stand motionless, looking at the leaves or grass, and fling out his arms to embrace he knows not what.”
-John Galsworthy, The Forsyte Saga

Spring is a contemplative time. New life springing forth all around us, a rebirth, a new beginning. This spring I have rejoiced the birth of my darling little nephew, and have been saddened by the loss of my dear Grandpa Smith. It’s been quite strange thinking about life in a grander perspective. The happiness of new life, the beauty of blossoms in spring, and seeing ruins of a past time, the sadness of saying goodbye. Time never stops and to be alive is to love.

Life is beautiful. Life is painful. Life is precious. 

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
-Søren Kierkegaard

“Spring drew on…and a greenness grew over those brown beds, which, freshening daily, suggested the thought that Hope traversed them at night, and left each morning brighter traces of her steps.”
-Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

“The beautiful spring came; and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also.”
-Harriet Ann Jacobs

“sweet spring is your
time is my time is our
time for springtime is lovetime
and viva sweet love”
-E.E. Cummings

“It is spring again. The earth is like a child that knows poems by heart.”
-Rainer Maria Rilke

“It is so small a thing to have enjoyed the sun,
to have lived light in the spring,
to have loved, to have thought, to have done.”
-Matthew Arnold

 

“Death takes us by surprise,
And stays our hurrying feet;
The great design unfinished lies,
Our lives are incomplete
But in the dark unknown,
Perfect their circles seem,
Even as a bridge’s arch of stone
Is rounded in the stream.
Alike are life and death,
When life in death survives,
And the uninterrupted breath
Inspires a thousand lives.
Were a star quenched on high,
For ages would its light,
Still traveling downward from the sky,
Shine on our mortal sight.
So when a great man dies,
For years beyond our ken,
The light he leaves behind him lies
Upon the paths of men.”
-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

(For part two click here to read Past and Present: Loss and Love)

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5 Extreme Household Challenges

“I’ve learned in my life that it’s important to be able to step outside your comfort zone and be challenged with something you’re not familiar or accustomed to. That challenge will allow you to see what you can do.”
-J. R. Martinez

I’m a challenge fanatic. I’m constantly challenging myself and Donovan. Little challenges, big challenges, all sorts of challenges. It’s important to push ourselves. I think for Donovan the scariest words I say are “I have an idea” haha. Donovan has been a good sport though about most challenges and enjoys them. There are still plenty of challenges I want to do that Donovan isn’t quite ready for… yet… biking across the USA, sailing around the world, backpacking the globe etc.

“I just love a challenge, and always have, and will do anything to make it interesting.
I’ll try anything, really, as long as it’s a challenge and you can have some fun doing it.”
-Malcolm McDowell

I’m not suggesting you need to do these exact challenges, I realize they are a bit extreme. BUT, I hope you can be inspired to set some challenges for yourself, however big or small they may be! As you’ll notice, I don’t have deadlines on these challenges. Our goal is to make some of these permanent changes, or just see how long we can stand to keep going haha. (note: I will probably write in depth posts on each challenge soon, about why they are important to us and how we are accomplishing these challenges.)

Here are the 5 Extreme Household Challenges Donovan and I are currently doing.

1. No AC!
We are refraining from using the air conditioner for as long as possible. Which is going to be a pretty hefty challenge considering we live in the southwest USA desert where summer temps are triple digits. We’ve already made it through a 95 degree F day, but it’s not even summer yet, so I’m cautiously optimistic. People have lived for thousands of years without climate controlling their homes, so if they can do it, I can do it. AC units use a ridiculous amount of electricity, which isn’t good for the environment or my bank account.

2. Ditching the Washer and Dryer
I’m attempting to hand wash and line dry ALL of our laundry. We already line dry most things so that part won’t be a challenge. Older washing machines use around 45 gallons of water for one load, and the energy efficient ones use between 15-25 gallons. By hand washing I am using a lot less water, zero electricity, and can easily use the grey water. I’m hoping this one will be a permanent change and that I can eventually sell our washer and dryer, but we’ll see how I’m feeling in a few months time haha. We’ve been at this one for a week and it’s really not bad so far, one might even say it’s actually kind of fun.

3. Taking out the Trash
We are cancelling our garbage removal service. We are in the process of this (the city is being a bit difficult), but once done, we will no longer have a trash can! This will force us to be even better at zero waste and will save us $14.62 per month, $175.44 per year, AND $877.20 over 5 years!

4. Minimal Showers
We are showering with as little water as possible. This will save gas from our water heater, and obviously conserve a lot of water. I’m aiming to do this 95% of the time, because hey, sometimes you need a long, hot relaxing shower. Moderation is important 🙂

5. Level Up on the Garden
We are going to grow more in our garden this season than ever before. If you’ve been to our house or seen pictures, then you’ll know we already have an enormous garden! It’s exciting finding new ways to grow even more crops. (BTW we live in the city on about 1/5 an acre.)

I want to continue getting back to the basics in life. Living even more intentionally and closer to nature. The way most people lived up until these modern times.

If you are going to do some challenges yourself, just remember what Brendon Burchard said, “Challenge is the pathway to engagement and progress in our lives. But not all challenges are created equal. Some challenges make us feel alive, engaged, connected, and fulfilled. Others simply overwhelm us. Knowing the difference as you set bigger and bolder challenges for yourself is critical to your sanity, success, and satisfaction.”

Peace & Love
-Kayla Oliver

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Zion and Bueller?… Bueller?… Bueller?

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
-Ferris Bueller

That was my senior quote in high school.
Ferris Bueller, you’re my hero. I actually ditched so much school that I almost wasn’t able to graduate. I believe in enjoying life. Luckily Donovan has a flexible work schedule, because I often convince him to take the afternoon off work so we can have fun.

“How can I possibly be expected to handle school on a day like this?”
-Ferris Bueller

Life with me is a spontaneous adventure. Yesterday, I got Donovan to leave work early and we spent the day in Zion National Park. We rode our bikes, ate lunch, played in the river, admired wildflowers, did some yoga… a chill day with epic views!

The question isn’t “what are we going to do,” the question is “what aren’t we going to do?”
-Ferris Bueller

 

We could all learn a lot from Ferris Bueller. Let’s all live life more fully.

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“You’re still here? It’s over! Go home. G0.”
-Ferris Bueller

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